Repair
Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity: The Path Is Not a Line
The largest survey of people trying to reconcile after an affair found that the route back follows neither a linear nor a uniform course. Some paths are short and direct, others long and doubled back. Knowing that changes what a bad month in year two means.
Rebuilding Trust After Cheating: Why the Record Has to Stop Moving First
Rebuilding trust after cheating has one step that other betrayals do not have. Before your conduct can count as evidence of anything, the factual record has to stop changing, and the slow release of new details over months is the most common reason a recovery never gets started at all.
How to Reconnect With Your Wife: Three Mechanisms and the One Most Men Skip
Reconnecting with your wife is not one action. It is three separate mechanisms with three different evidence bases, and the grand gesture most men reach for is a badly shaped dose of just one of them. Here is what each mechanism is, what the studies actually found, and the order to run them in.
Trust Rebuilding After a Real Breach: Why Forgiveness and Trust Are Two Different Jobs
Trust rebuilding is not an apology and it is not forgiveness. Forgiveness happens inside one person and can be granted at any time. Trust is a forecast about your future conduct that cannot be granted at all, and working on the wrong one is why most repairs stall.
Rebuilding Relationship Trust When Nothing Was Betrayed
Trust in a long marriage is not one thing. It resolves into predictability, dependability and faith, and those three rebuild in that order at very different speeds. Here is what the work looks like when there was no affair to forgive.
How to Save Your Marriage When Nothing Is Actually Wrong
Most advice for saving a marriage assumes a fire. The harder case is a marriage with no fire and no warmth either. Here is what repair looks like when there is nothing dramatic to fix.