The Household
The Mental Load in Relationships: Why the Imbalance Holds Even When Nobody Is the Villain
Most writing on the mental load explains what it is or how to split it. This is about what it does to the relationship itself, and about a dyadic finding that explains why the arrangement survives goodwill on both sides.
The Mental Load Comic: What It Actually Argues, and What to Do If Your Wife Sent You the Link
The mental load comic is a 2017 web comic by the French artist Emma, published in English as You Should've Asked. If your wife sent it to you, she was not filing a complaint about chores. This is what the comic argues, what the peer-reviewed work since has confirmed and qualified, and the three responses that make it worse.
The Mental Load Checklist: What Belongs On It and How to Take Half
A chore list and a mental load checklist are different documents. Here is the thirteen item inventory drawn from the research instrument that measured it, the two jobs hiding inside every item, and how to hand one over so it stays handed over.
The Mental Load: Why the Man Who Runs Operations at Work Cannot See the Job at Home
You run forecasting, staffing and logistics for a living. At home you are told you do not carry the load. Both things are true, and the reason why is a mechanism rather than an insult.